WELCOME TO FEEL THE FEELS
A twelve-week live training giving high achievers a trauma-informed approach to feeling their feelings.
August 10th 2022 – October 26th 2022
QUESTIONS TO HELP THEM SELF IDENTIFY _ high achiever, unsure of how to feel feelings/feel stuck with uncomfortable feelings. overhwlemed by IG therapy content - what DO with it?
we were never taught how to feel feelingns
its a skill that makes s more human and 3000x more powerful
you don't have to change your emotions - better understand and work with emotions - having a different experience with them.
Let's reclaim your humanity and unleash your power.
why people want to learn this - what it creates possbility for
me - started with habits. then knew i had to go deeper.
im. ahigh chiever - stayed in my head, still not feeling - caused chaos
This pattern doesn't have to continue. My clients and I believe that in reclaiming our humanity - we reclaim our full power.
It's why I support high achievers in exploring a new way of feeling and being - a way of doing that honors ALL parts of them.
Because the more connected you are to your own humanity, the more powerful you become.
FEEL THE FEELS
A live training + group coaching experience
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better understand and work with emotions - not changing emotions, but having a different experience with them. This course is based on Hilary’s award-winning book It’s Not Always Depression.
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Learn how to move through the Change Triangle tool and land in the Open-Hearted State of the Authentic Self!
- NS regulation
DOES IT EVER FEEL LIKE...
- how do THEY relate to feelingng the feels?
It makes TOTAL sense.
how it makes sense
What if I said that the 'ideal version of you' probably isn't perfect and they definitely aren't superhuman?
How would it feel to believe that they are already inside of you, ready and waiting to be unleashed with gentle, science-based, tangible and accessible shifts?
HOW IT WORKS
Feel the Feels is a 12 week program that blends education, experiential learning, and coaching.
All sessions are conducted over zoom. We meet weekly for 90 minutes beginning DATE.
First 45-60 minutes are teaching on that week's topic. Last 45 min are open for hot seat coaching.
All sessions are recorded, you do NOT have to attend live.
WEEKLY OUTLINE
- Week1: Agreements, Intro to Feelings, Visioning Ritual
- Week 2: Cost and Benefits of Defenses - What are defenses?
- Week 3: Anxiety - Using anxiety as a signal to validate core emotions, conflicts, and needs
- Week 4: Integration Week
- Week 5: Shame and Guilt - Differentiating between shame and guilt; soothing shame
- Week 6: Core Emotions & Being with Sadness
- Week 7: Core Anger - Anger has a purpose
- Week 8: Integration Week
- Week 9: Expansive Emotions - Joy, pride, gratitude, excitement
- Week 10: Openhearted State/Working the Triangle
- Week 11: Getting into the Body + Change Triangle Practice
- Week 12: Refelct, integrate, celebration ritual
Using the Voxer app, you'll have text and voice message access to Julia Monday-Friday. This is a space to have questions answered, checkin with gentle accountability, and get any needed support in between sessions.
Feel the Feels
- Option 1: Full pay and save $300 ($1,200 total)
- Option 2: 6 monthly payments of $297
change triangle is science based, somatic tool you can apply for yourself. intersereed with nervous system regulaton.
In our coaching sessions we move through three phases together.
- EMBRACE - We begin by building a foundation that allows you to access your inner sense of safety and groundedness. We'll deepen into the power of who you already are exploring your innate values, strengths and tendencies. You'll leave with a toolbox to access feelings of safety, calm, and ease, individualized to your nervous system.
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EXPERIENCE - You'll learn how it feels for you to safely access, sit with, and process through feelings and emotions. We'll find your unique ways of moving stuck energy and emotions, including 'negative' ones, through your body. You'll grow your ability to release emotions that have felt like blocks, and to be present through future challenges as they arise.
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EMBODY - We'll support your internal shifts with self-care, boundaries, and work and life policies that reflect your inner enoughness. We'll experiment with varying goals and real world strategies so that you're better able to bring your authentic self into your relationships, work, and play.
Our coaching centers on meeting YOU right where you're at. This means we may move through all 3 phases at once or spend several sessions/months in one. There isn't a 'right' way. Instead, we balance and oscillate between your current experiences, needs, and capacity, and where you want to go.
It's my hope that when you walk away from our coaching you will:
- Have an intimate understanding of your own needs and capacity. You'll learn to tune into and respond to your nervous system through state specific self-care allowing you to access more energy and calm amidst full days.
- Continue to hold yourself to a high standard and chase big goals, just tweaking the recipe - seasoning with more self-compassion and joy and going easy on the perfectionism and criticizing.
- Feel deeply connected to the core of yourself - who you are, what you think, and what you love. Aligning your words, actions, and habits with your values, desires, and innate strengths.
- Better understand the systems, tools, and practices that work for you allowing you to show up and achieve in a way that honors your needs and nervous system.
- Move through life's inevitable challenges and roadblocks confidently able to feel, experience, and move feelings through your body to access moments of peace and calm no matter the storm.
>>> What would it feel like to trust in your ability to show up for your full, busy, wild life while still being able to checkin with your capacity, needs, and desires?
>>> Do you want to learn to connect with your body, to find moments of calm and ease, that help you to feel more grounded and at home with yourself?
>>> How would life shift for you if you were able to sit with, learn from, and move fear, anger, anxiety, sadness, or loneliness through your body instead of feeling like your only option is to numb and shove your uncomfortable feelings down?
"Julia has a magical way of speaking truth into your life in a way that is so gentle that all you feel is loved and so motivating that it gives you the confidence to move forward to put yourself in a better place. She shows you how to love yourself and THAT is where the real change is. Itβs been a long process for me, but I am in a much different place now. I am so much stronger. My self talk is so much more kind, and on the days itβs not, I have tools to deal with it. My moods have stabilized and I feel happier, more in control."
Bria A.
"Before working with Julia I was in a slump. I was tired, unmotivated, not coping with stress and unable to fit in even my stretchiest of underwear. I wanted to be excited about life again, wake up motivated and happy, and to be living the healthy lifestyle I once had. My first session with Julia immediately put my fears of working with a coach to rest (it's intimidating to tell a stranger that you just really don't have it together!). She is inspiring, HILARIOUS, and sessions with her feel like spending time with a good friend. Two months in, I am a different person. I have energy throughout the day, established healthy routines (including a regular yoga practise), and my entire relationship with food has changed... Something I've struggled with since I was young, and thought would never change. Julia (and snacks - which were her suggestion) has actually changed my life.!β"
Emma F.
"I have battled anxiety since I was 11 yrs old, meaning that I've worked with many professionals to find the perfect formula to get rid of anxiety. However, it was not until I participated in Julia's masterclass that I finally discovered how to use what I considered my weakness as my super-power! Julia Balto's approach to changing habits is effective not only b/c she knows her craft but b/c she's absolutely empathic to each individual's story, environment, and personality. Plus, she's absolutely the best when working with hard-headed type- personalities like me. Thank you, Julia, for caring beyond the call of duty. Who would have known that my teacher was not yet born when I started this journey? "
Karem M.
So much of the traditional self-development world bypass the intricacies and lived experience of being human.
Humans (yes even high achieving, go getter ones!) are emotional, dynamic, full spectrum beings.
If traditional models of success, self-care, and productivity haven't 'worked' for you...you are not the problem.
Growth, expansion, and healing happen when ALL parts of you and your humanity are allowed to take up space, explore, and experiment with the tools, practices, and habits that work for YOU.
Our relationship isn't about fixing anything because you're not broken.
Rather, we're here to hold space, curiously dive deeper, trust that your answers are within you, and tease them out with gentle experiments and loving accountability.
Your path is uniquely yours. And, here's an idea of what past clients have felt and achieved during our time together:
- Negotiated promotions and raises that value their experience and skills.
- Left unfulfilling partnerships because they felt grounded in their worth what they deserve.
- Pursued what they actually wanted to work on in their work and businesses instead of what felt safe or expected.
- Felt more connected to themselves, easing their relationship with food and their body.
- Committed to and deepened intimate relationships even though it felt scary.
- Explored their identity outside of work, allowing other parts of themselves to be fully expressed.
- Cared for and put themselves first through transitions such as cross country moves, new babies, and job changes.
- Nourished and moved their bodies in ways that feel GOOD.
- Changed careers altogether for something truly aligned with their desires and values.
- And more…
APPLY TO SEE IF WORKING WITH JULIA IS THE RIGHT FIT FOR YOU!
NOTE - APPLYING DOES NOT COMMIT US TO WORKING TOGETHER.
The application takes 10-15 minutes to complete and has the option for us to hop on a 'Vibe Check' Call to answer any questions and see if we're a good fit.
I've been living with anxiety and depression my entire life. While I've experienced the roller coaster of ups and downs...the last 3 or 4 months I've felt more in control of my life than I ever have. She helped me focus on a) whats in my control, b) where to start with the things that are in my control and c) who am I really and who do I want to be?When I was a kid I was so scared to be an adult and now I'm just SO excited. - Alex, J.
"The level of self awareness and emotional intelligence that I've gained has been profound... I've cried sad tears, happy tears, our favorite are epiphany tears! There's been so much growth...Julia has such a soulful and heartfelt approach that I've genuinely bonded with. Having someone like Julia has saved me." - Heather H.
As a trauma-informed coach, it's important for me to name my teachers and learning lineage. While it continues to grow and evolve, I have taken courses through or been mentored by:
Laura J. Swan, The Embody Lab (Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Certification), Reese Evans (Yes Supply), National Board of Certified Health and Wellness Coaches, Hilary Jacobs Hendel, Peter Levine, Deb Dana, Manuela Mischke-Reeds
FAQ
Who exactly do you work with?
All kinds of high achievers. I've supported engineers, physicians, CEOs, lawyers, educators, entrepreneurs, students, corporate professionals, creatives and more. I define high achievers as humans with an innate desire for a life well lived.
What is somatics?
Past experiences, trauma and emotion live in our body's cellular memory. Chronic stress and trauma truncate us away from our selves.
Somatics is the exploration of how a person can come more wholly back to themselves and thrive as a relational being often through the mind, body connection.
How is coaching different from therapy?
The International Coach Federation (ICF) defines coaching as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.”
In coaching we trust the the client is the best expert of themselves (not the coach). We focus more on the present and the future asking questions like “how” and “what” more so than “why.” We ask questions to promote discovery and reflect a client's own knowledge back to them rather than diagnosing, pathologizing, or prescribing.
Many of my clients have said that coaching feels like a natural transition when they're ready to begin taking action after processing in therapy. The two also complement each other very well!